I don’t care what the odds are — be it health or chance — my husband just has to live forever. It’s for my daughter’s sake, especially my oldest daughter Robin.
Bob and Robin have such a wonderful relationship. It’s something I wanted for my children to have. I wanted them to be able to know their father, live with him, and have him a part of their everyday lives. One of things I considered a priority when I was dating was that the man I would marry would be a man who was dedicated to his children. And I am blessed to have just that, and so much more.
My father and I have a growing relationship. I am one of six children — the eldest. And although my parents were married and still are married to this day, the time we got to spend with my father was limited. He worked to provide for us and my mother stayed home to take care of us. I saw way more of my mother than I did my father and I always wanted to make sure that being a present father was something of importance to my husband.
Not only does my husband feel a need to be in his children’s life, he has a knack for fathering the children in his area of influence. We recently moved to Phoenix, AZ from the east coast, and wouldn’t you know it. The children in the local playground naturally clung to him. It was so funny to seem him try to ignore their hellos and waves. He was embarrassed, but I was proud. Here’s a man who makes children feel safe to be around him, without him trying. And I get the priviledge of spending my life with him.
So, you see, my husband can never leave this earth. When my daughter wakes up in the morning, and can’t find my husband because he’s working or out on an errand, you can hear the disappointment in her voice. He is a constant in her day, and I am sure my youngest daughter will have the same attachment to him, as she releases her death grip on me. LOL.
I know this blog is about mothering. But I feel what I want to give to my children, and what I am able to give them, would be so drastically different without my husband as the father he is. We are a team, and I don’t think mothers praise active and responsible fathers enough for all the love and parenting they bring to their families everyday.
I love you bey. I couldn’t what I do without you. And I know Robin and Alecia love and appreciate you too!